My daughter’s care provider told me yesterday that she is aggressive with the other children at daycare. Not pushing-and-shoving aggressive – more that she wants to hug and kiss everyone, but is rather unsturdy on her feet.
Combined with the unsturdiness of her hapless recipients, the end result is a toppling of toddlers to the ground. Then come the tears, the boo-boos to kiss and general frustration that my little girl keeps doing this.
What it comes down to is that my daughter doesn’t know her own strength and when she goes to hug and kiss a friend, she ends up inadvertently mauling them. Her care provider says she’s even managing to do this to the older kids.
While part of me sympathizes and understands the frustration these other children feel by having to deal with an affectionate Godzilla who crashes them to the ground with every hug, another part of me things is this really such a terrible thing?
Yes, yes of course I understand that my little girl needs to learn about boundaries but she also knows how to be gentle.
We own two cats whom she adores; the feeling is not mutual, however our one cat Spike does tolerate being petted by DD because we’ve taught her to be gentle.
This morning when I dropped DD off, I asked the care provider to give DD guidance to be gentle. I guarantee it won’t take long for my little Godzilla to learn that other children deserve the same care as she gives our cats.
What do you think? Am I under-reacting to this situation? Am I viewing it subjectively because I’m the parent to the toddler who is unwittingly mauling her friends?