Meltdown centralApril 23rd, 2012 | Posted by in punch drunk parenting
Well here we are. In the midst of a complete and utter meltdown of the toddler sort.
It’s been building for weeks. We should have recognized a severe failure of the toddler reactor system was imminent.
For too long, Dear Husband and I rationalized these incidents as a direct outcome of tiredness, illness and hunger.
But today…we face the wretched truth.
Failures in control systems (consistent follow through by mom and dad) has induced a series of events resulting in stoppage of toddler cooling. This has created a loss of pressure control causing the toddler’s fuel assemblies (aka emotions) to overheat and melt.
Contemporary parenting principles are applied to make such accidents unlikely however, recent, repeated control systems failure has led to this most unfortunate release of toddler tantrums into the home environment.
To prevent subsequent failures, DH and I recognize we need to change our parenting approach. And so, we have implemented the following control measures:
- - frequently reminding one another that temper tantrums are a natural part of child development
- - creating an action plan to address an imminent emotional breach (aka identify pre-tantrum triggers) to stop it in its tracks
- - proven to ourselves that staying calm and ignoring the outbursts is effective – as long as you can stay calm and ignore the outbursts
- - providing love and reassurance post-tantrum makes everyone feel better
As parents we understand our roles in preventing a breach of the primary emotional pressure boundary…but jeez…sometimes it’s hard.
This is my entry for Day One of the Five for Five blog meme hosted by Jen and Sarah at Momalom.com. Today’s prompt is “change”. I’ve never blogged five days in a row and am looking forward to the challenge!
There a ton of submissions already on Momalom.com so go check them out!
* Meltdown image sourced via www.christianculture.biz